What Is Friendship and Why Is It So Important?
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Photo by Quinn Kananack taken @The Maddox Hotel
Hello my friends!
What subject could be more wonderful to explore than the Art of Friendship!
Now, let us reacquaint ourselves with the framework we are working with as we discuss friendship as artistry.
As always, we start with the second definition of ARTIST (2): A person whose work shows exceptional creative ability or skill.
In this case, that person could be you being a friend to another, or another being a friend to you.
Is it possible that friendship is such a blessing that in its natural state it is artistry?
Let’s find out and if so why!
There are so many directions we can go to understand the route to artistry in terms of friendship, but since friendship feels so close to artistry to begin with, let’s take a look at what makes the life of an artist seem so valuable. Let’s see if that helps us find some direction.
Okay, I’m going to start with a question because you know that is what I love to do.
What is it that we admire about the life of an artist?
Well, simply put, artists have the ability to express themselves.
That’s no easy task as they must first know themselves, right?
To know themselves, yes, that IS valuable!
Let’s take this into the realm of friendship.
Friendships help us grow. They help us cope. They help us understand. They comfort us. They build us up. They inspire us to be what we can be.
How can a friend do that effectively unless they KNOW who we are?
Ahhhh! That is the connection. We spend lifetimes trying to figure out who we are and yet our lovely friends have known all along.
How do we know that?
Let’s look at the definition of friend.
Friend n. one attached to another by affection or esteem.
Esteem? Oh….that’s a great word! You probably have an idea of what it means but let’s see the definition.
Esteem: to set a high value on: regard highly and prize accordingly.
Wow! I love this!
Regard highly and prize accordingly.
Let’s sit with this for a moment because this really is beautiful!
Think about all the people you meet on a daily basis. Think about how some, you connect with and some, you don’t. Think about those that you do connect with, how many of them do you open yourself up to?
There is something sacred about a friend, isn’t there? There is a moment where you are seen, wholly, in all your most beautiful and powerful self by another. The loveliest part is that you both feel it.
Those aren’t just words. It is something quite special when it happens.
Which brings us to friendship.
Is there a difference between a friend and friendship?
I’m going to go out on a limb and say yes! : )
Let’s do a little exploring and look at the suffix of friendship, “ship”…..
It means "to shape"
A friend can see you and be a safe port in the sea of confusion and chaos and yet you only speak to them once a year or once every five years. This is valuable in and of itself. It is always important to know there are people out in the world who see you.
But a friendship is different because there is action involved....Shaping.
A friendship is extremely special as it requires time and effort and commitment and the willingness to shoulder the pain of life when it comes crashing down…….by both parties. That’s what makes it so special. Both parties hold each other in high regard. It is a mutual respect. It’s why these relationships last.
Shaping is an interesting word as it can only occur if there is trust.
Trust is everything as it allows us the freedom to be.
Now that we understand more fully the world of friends and friendships… the question is… “Are friendships, in their natural state, artistry?
Well, since I wanted to get to the bottom of this, I dug all the way to the root of the word, “friend” and this is what I found: from Proto-Indo-European *preyH- (“to like, love”), equivalent to free
There it is.
Did you know there are 15 definitions of the word “free”?
(15 minutes later)
I went with this one.
: not determined by anything beyond its own nature or being : choosing or capable of choosing for itself,
Do you see how this pulls it all together?
The purpose of a friend is to see you and help you be your natural state. Your natural state is you and being you is freedom.
Think of how blessed we are to have our friendships.
If we are ever in question as to whether we can live with the freedom to know ourselves and that we can live the life of an artist, we need only look to our friendships.
How lucky are we?
Your friendships are ARTISTRY.
I see it. : )
Continue to join me as we delve into the 5 steps that will elevate your life to artistry.
Apply them as a mom, a teacher, a student or a business owner!
These steps occur naturally in life and as you apply them you will notice they become more accessible. Each step has multiple layers, and we go over all of them here in this blog.
1 - Accept the Challenge
2 - Define the Rules
3 - Master Your Craft
4 - Elevate Your Skill
5 - Infuse You
Life can be beautiful.
It can be fulfilling.
You have the ability to make it that way!
With Great Love,
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